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So I guess I am riding what many might scoff at as a hybrid seat, but I am loving learning from M, seeing how it works for the horses (according to my only mediocre abilities). We'll see what she thinks of the bitless next time I actually manage to get a lesson in... I feel wimpy and scared
I know the feeling...but ask her to work with you on it as being a goal of YOURS. Let her know that you your desire is different than someone who wants to compete.
Waaaaaaay back (I think it was all of two years...no, maybe it's three now? I can't remember any more) in the first clinic I took with Paul Dufresne, I was at the very start of riding Cisco again (Cisco tossed me at one point and my confidence was shaken very badly). I was riding him with a sidepull at the time. A friend had helped me find the courage to get back on him, and he told me that he felt Cisco was feeling claustrophobic in the bit. Looking back, he was probably just finding the nicest possible way to tell me I had heavy hands and I was too harsh on Cisco's mouth. Anyway...when the first clinic with Paul came, I asked him if I should use a bit, and he said yes, so I did.
By the next clinic, I was bitless (and remained that way). I didn't tell Paul I disagreed with the bit...I simply told him that I wanted to do it this way, and if that meant that I would never achieve what he thought we might achieve WITH a bit, then so be it. Or if it just meant it would take longer, then so be it. He was fine with it. His mantra now, is that if something is working well for a participant, there is no reason for a little frenchman (his words! not mine!) to tell them any differently!
I have since gone on to do a clinic with Cisco where I did all the ground work in a Cordeo, and the very last clinic I took with Tamarack, most of our riding was also done in the cordeo and Paul found ways to challenge me to go beyond what we were doing to that point, and even encouraged me to stick with the cordeo in the times I felt frustrated and wanted to put on the cavesson. There was part of the clinic that I did use the cavesson.
So talk to her. Let her know you want to explore this. If she's the person you think she is, she won't mind at all.