Dear Caballus,
Indeed, for what we from an AND perspective see as leadership, please follow the link Romy gave you
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My understanding and years of observation of equine social heirarchy is that a horse NEEDS to have a leader ... and if not, then that horse HAS TO BE the leader.
First of all, I have different experiences. From what I have found out, is that horses are very much democratic. I think, we humans should study their politics, for theirs actually work and benefit all and not just some.
What I see, is that every one has a different task in the herd, sort of the right man/woman for the job in the right place.
The alpha does not always make the decission. I believe they do in cases of where to go, emergencies etc.
But perhaps not always over illness, childcare etc.
I can go in to this deep, but I am not for I do not want to polute Pia's topic.
What I am going to say is, that I am not trying to be leader of my horses, as now, this seems utter ridiculous to me. More and more I feel rather a stupid human
So, leader is Owen. We have never any problem, he treats me like a princess. Also the wahy he interacts with me, very much sets the standard for how the other horses do, which is really very nice
When I was a child, I went out with my overly large horse Jimmy. He was a very difficult horse for others. I went out hacking on his back and just let him go where he wanted. We had the best of times, even took naps together in far away and abandoned pastures.
Never the thought crossed my mind that I needed to decide anything or be boss of him.
I could say tho: oh look over there, what beautiful trees! shall we go and look? And he would run over there.
He always passed the busy roads calmly, I trusted him not to run underneeth a car, as cleary he had eyes... I never questioned his intelligence, it just never crossed my mind.
Years later, when I was told I, gloriuos and intelligent human, should be leader and boss of horse, the trouble started.
Always fights and frustration.
Until thanks to Owen, who nearly killed me, I let go and started to be child again. I let hem free, and now I am free.
Romy... I am working with a tiny huge horse just like Pia... oh he is so lovely, I'll ask Ralph to make pictures soon!
I do the same thing, mimicing his way of interaction. But I did not realise it, that is the core of my work with horses untill you spelled it out for me, thanks!
I can 't wait to have you over again and see you play with the Don, who is waiting for you!