Glen Grobler wrote:
I also been "forced" to work on this congruency thing. Sigh. Laska. Loopy little Laska demands it. He only does stuff for congruent humans.
Fair enough - his demands are helping me to work with Freckles.
Like you, the only "method" I have found to create congruency in myself is to verbalize - all the time
so now I have this almost whispered conversation with myself telling myself what I'm doing, about to do, and why. It's almost like a stream-of-consciousness blurb. I must look and sound like a nut-case
Well, not to us you don't.
I have experimented with internal dialogue ... that is "speaking" consciously to myself but in my mind rather than out loud. It's a little spooky when I speak to my dog this way (internally only) and he, an eager learner with a large repertoire of responses, actually does what I asked for - silently to myself.
Of course there are lots of environmental clues that could be cuing him, but it's still spooky.
I've not tried this with Altea and Bonnie, but it tells me that I can be congruent, from my internal, silent "asks," and my external signals. There is a way to practice congruent quiet minded (that's the secret) communication. Or so my dog keeps telling me.