Hi Donald,
I know how much you care about all of us here, and how upset you feel when we are hurt or disdained by others. I'm imagining that perhaps some of the strong feeling that you are expressing comes from your desire to protect and stand up for us. If I'm right, thanks for your support.
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Whether you realize it or not you are dismissing my choice of stronger language, not my position...unless you are willing to recognize others here have spoken dismissively of both NHE and other "systems."
I'm sure that Romy DOES realise this.. in fact, I understood that this was entirely her point.
Romy is not dismissing your position. You are entitled to it, and as you state, there are many others who share it, or a similar one.
(Although my impression is that those who've experienced NHE first hand mostly have a very high esteem for the training method and the training abilities of the man it is named after. The FORUM.. well.. that's another bunch of bananas..)
She is asking you to modify your language as you have noted. And in her new role as moderator,I think that is exactly what she must do. If she does not, it sets a precedent that others can follow, and I think we would all agree that, however despicable the target, this is not the kind of direction we want AND to take.
I imagine that must have been very hard for her to write, as I know how much she respects you, and I'm sure she would dislike being the one who has to draw attention to the "rules". And I also imagine that right now she's feeling awful that she has hurt your feelings, while trying to do her job and nurture the forum that we all love so much.
I know that you know the rules!
And I know that you are a very good communicator, so I can only imagine that you must yourself be feeling very hurt to use such strong language and then respond to Romy in such a way.
Actually I think, (and I guess you know this.. so apologies in advance, I hope you can forgive me if I sound patronizing or dismissive) that the problem is not so much in the STRENGTH of the language, but in the way you are presenting the message as fact, rather than as your opinion..
This, specifically, is one of the guidelines of how to post here. "Ownership" of feelings, opinions, ideas, impressions, IMO
, is an effective way of expressing all the negative stuff that just has to come out sometimes, without continuing the negative cycle.
I hope that you're feeling a lot better today.
And Romy and Karen... I really appreciate your willingness to take on the jobs of moderating this forum. Luckily, most of the time we don't bite much, so I hope we don't give you too much trouble!
Sue
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