You do so much alrady with your horse! Congratulations!
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I also did some parelli games with him making him get up and go. He doesn't seem really interested in playing.
Have you read the stickies in the groudnwork section? All of them? There you will find most of your answers, but this question, we can start a discussion about. Hopefully others will chime in and offer some support and direction as well.
In the two horses I a mpresently working, the one thing that will squash any playfulness, very quickly, is telling them they MUST do something.
By using enough pressure to make your horse bite at the pressure point, you know you are causing pain? In causing pain, you are certainly showing your horse that you can make him do something (and he will learn this way), but you are not showing him that you can be his friend. A friend who would not hurt him, ever. The kind of freindship a horse looks for, is a wound tightly around a feeling of security. They must feel secure that you will always be predictable, and that you will never hurt them, or make them do something that they do not understand. I'm not saying you should never use pressure, but that pressure should never be more than the horse can understand and is willing to accept happily.
That sense of trust and security is build up slowly. Horses have long memories and it takes time to convince them that you won't be unpredictable.
When you ask your horse a question, you have to phrase it in a way that they can understand and react in a way you hope they will. The stickies in the ground work will help you with that.
Also, any time you make your horse do something that they haven't agreed to do...like you ask for a bow, the horse does not do it, so you use the hobbles...no matter how gently you have done it, you have still stated to the horse that you are a boss and he is just an employee. There aren't many employees that wish to play with their bosses!
You and your horse have to be on common ground...at the same level in the friendship...then you can expect perhaps some playfulness.
But you can't expect so much too quickly! It is our goal oriented nature and our expectations that drive us to make our horses do things rather than finding ways to teach them. When we make them do things, rather then slowing down and changing how we approach our training - challenging ourselves to figure how to help them find a movmement, then playfulness is subdue along with thier own inner personality. They need an atmosphere of patience (and good timing on rewards!) and acceptance to find that playfulness.
Work on some of the ideas in the stickies! It will help! I promise!
As for bowing without the hobbles, that will come with the playfulness. When a hose knows that he may be rewarded for offering things without being asked, then they begin to explore the possibilities on thier own. For now, because he has be taught that you will lift the foot for him, he has no need at all to do it himself.
Then there is the "lightbulb moment" you are asking about. Your best bet is to go back to the targeting...so good thinking there! You are right! Choosing a behavior like targeting works because the horse is seeking the answer on his own. You cannot make him do it. It is in these moments of freely seeking an answer that they can best have that lightbulb moment. If you only pair a click with something you have made the horse do, then they will tend to be very slow in picking up on the significance of the click.
I do hope this helps. You have a wonderful horse to work with, and you have a kind heart...so I just know you will get it all sorted out! Keep trying! You will fine it!