first I wanted to say thanks to all of you for sharing your experience.
When I startet to read the "Special Posts" Romy mentioned I thought: there is so much more to learn. And I love learning, especially about horses and how to deal with them in a kind, gentle and fair way.
I want them to have fun with me. I want that they like to spend time with me. I want that we have a good time together, that's the most important!
But for me it isn't always easy because I learned that horses have to do what I say everytime, otherwise they become dangerous. So from my first day with horses I learned to force them to do something instead of listening to them, instead of finding a way to turn my idea into their idea, instead of working with their own ideas, instead of communicate with them really and instead of just having fun.
I often came home from the horses with anger and the terrible feeling that everything went wrong. I didn't knew what I could change and what would give me, and the horses, a better feeling.
Then I found out about the clickertraining. It took some time, but then it totally changed my mind. There was a way to work with the horses without forcing them. I was one step further on my way with horses.
Now I feel like at this time, when I thought about positive reinforcement, dominance and everything I did with horses and how I did it. The last time I thought a lot about voluntariness (don't know if the word fits), about friendship and communication.
It feels like something will get better the next time and maybe it has something to do with this forum
After reading the "Special Posts" I have a little question. Where should I go on reading? All of the topics seem to be so interesting. Could you please give me a tip? It would help me al lot
Maybe I should add something about the horses:
I have no own horse, but I take care of four horses. We make groundwork with the clicker but not big things...just for fun and to do something together
One of the horses is an 24 year old arabian mare. Two of the ponys are Shetlandponys and of one of them I don't know the race. The ponys are all between 13 and 17 years old. They all have very different personalitys, so it's very interesting to work with them.
And about me:
I'm a 16 year old girl from Germany. I started riding when I was eleven and when I was 13 or 14 I got my first "horse in care" (don't know how to say it in English
) and I still work with this horse. I ended riding at the riding school at the time I startet with clickertraining. In 2012 I got three ponys to take care of.
My whole thinking about horses changed at the last years, but I'm still making so many mistakes.
There is so much more to learn and I think here is a good place for it
So, I should stop writing, otherwise no one will read it...
...and sorry for my bad English