I have been looking in for a month or so now - also joined NHE hoping to learn another way of ground work(just in time for the exodus).
I have been around horses for 40 years now and have continued to shed most of what I learned in the early years, mostly the adversarial approach to horses.
And I left horses 40 year ago precisely because of many horses teaching me, but one in particular, that there was another way.
Because I made my living with horses, and I knew of no market for my budding new found intentions and skills I hoped to develop back then, I had to leave. Conscience, if nothing else.
My background has been dressage and jumping but all along I have loved just being with my horse. Depending on character playing or just being quiet together. Never formally trained for tricks or clicker training I would like to learn more.
While I don't particularly recommend one over another I found a lot very useful from Alexandra Kurland's books.
Oddly enough I used to know a pioneer in clicker training, not well, but we moved in similar circles. Karen Pryor of "Don't Shoot the Dog."
I'm 52 years old and seemed to have missed the coming of Natural Horsemanship and when introduced to it I really didn't care for it (the pressure and release and negative stuff) At the time I had newly bought a rather feral grade Appaloosa gelding who was terrified of people and reacted to round penning by shutting down which to me felt awful. So we just co-existed for some years -- curing with love alone I could say -- He's more trusting now.
I thought at first it was great because it was further refinement on methods I had been refining 40 years ago. As I kept watching it though I got the same hit as you.
I decided back then not to 'do' horses unless I could be friends with them. I feel the same way now.
I'm being trained, it seems, by a very sweet little Andalusian mare you see above as my avatar.
I think my time has come to not be anything but a servant to the horse. And it feels right.
The horse will tell me when it's time to play, and what games.
3 years ago though I had to sell the farm and since then he has been 500 miles away. I have my house up for sale now and want to figure out a way we can co-exist again. I miss his scrappy self!
Life changes. Tough stuff sometimes, but so often new paths are found that are better or more fulfilling than the old ones.
I don't know what else to say -- I lead a pretty quiet life -- kind of a hermit spiritually -- and love solitude. Do some artwork and poetry --
We have a folder you might wish to visit here.
It's called [url=http://www.artofnaturaldressage.com/viewforum.php?f=16&
oh - and I also realize that I doubt I will be accepted in the NHE school -- too wary perhaps .. but I can learn some of the same ways from all of you??
Ways? WAYS? Then you wish us to expose our secrets? Our methods? Our precious mysterious methods?
Oh, well, Okay.
My silly kidding aside, I think you already know. One answer is, the horse knows the way.
I'm grateful to have found this forum -- there is a feeling of serenity here -- even with the shadows from another group --
Mouschi, what an interesting name you've chosen. I could not help but do a search on it, and what fascinating things that revealed.
I cannot help but wonder how you came by the name.
Describing yourself as though you are a very private person though, I am not pressing for an answer.
As you might observe I am not a quiet person, nor a spiritual hermit (I think), but rather noisy and silly and emotionally available all too much. It get's me in various kinds of trouble.
When you feel inclined, or if you feel inclined please do visit my photo bucket album.
I think I need to know more quiet people. I need the examples.
Best wishes, Donald Redux
If you are curious, you can see both my current and my historic photo and video albums at - (guest password is 'haumea')