Well, here's what has been happening to me after joining this forum and reading the odd post here and there.
As I am only human, I share the tendency to focus on conflict, on the negative, the controversial... So rampant in life, everywhere you go - is this fascination. Oh how I rushed to read articles with headlines such as: "Rollkur" and "horse abuse"...
How I wanted to point out the "faults" of others - how the collection is not true, how the horse is in pain etc.
Well, this is changing! Thanks to the wonderful folks here - the way this forum does not just talk of "
positive comments only please"! How people (gently and respectfully) remind those of us who slip up - to "rise above" - to focus on the truth...
The discipline of this is contagious!
I find myself not even tempted to "get into" the things wrong with this or that - for they are not really "wrong", they are just the way of reality for those in that situation... and most of the time waaaay out of my control.
Being a bit of a perfectionist, I get discouraged when things are not perfect with my life, horses and so on. And I am thrilled to share that this is shifting too. I am much more in the moment now. Much more open minded and positive, I would guess...
The exercises and training (play) sessions have taken on an air of exuberance, of pure lightness and joyful exploration. And the acceptance of the horse's decision not to participate at times - and with my change in attitude, with the cessation of placing so much importance on the horse's "liking me" - well the horses are drawn to me so much more....
Paradoxically - placing less importance on the outcome guarantees it... probably not news to you guys
So a big THANK YOU for this to all of you!