Miriam wrote:
In answer to your question about your questions:
April wrote:
Isn't more important to ask for a try or step than many steps? It's not the quantity but the quality that is important, isn't?
To reward for the forehand to be so far under himself, wouldn't you believe that this must be what my owner wants me to look like?
If the horse isn't ready for this, then why ask for so much? Are we being in a too big of a hurry?
This isn't a neutral question at all, and I hope that you see that.
You can think that this is only one question out of three so a bit of negativism and being judgemental is harmless - but it just poisons the rest of the questions too as it seems to show that your intent is pointed towards learning, but more towards judging others. And that just isn't allowed over here.
One of the things I've enjoyed about AND is that it has been so accepting of less than perfectly written responses and comments.
I have to question this questioning of April, which in itself is taking a very negative tone with her.
And most questions are not neutral by the very fact they are being asked about difficulties in understanding using one's own viewpoint (as all we actually have in the end) as the reference.
I am a bit alarmed at the use of "... that just isn't allowed over here."
I can see that "it" is not "allowed" to pass without remark, and that makes sense from a moderator.
I believe this, your comment, should have moved to a private discussion with April. In fact, I'm not too sure I should have posted my comment now publicly, but since this "problem" was taken public ...
I get the uncomfortable feeling that April, and by inference others, are being warned not have strong spoken opinions.
Possibly it can be clarified for me exactly who was being attacked by April, and how?
Personally, with the preceding detail in explanation, I do not find this, " ... If the horse isn't ready for this, then why ask for so much? Are we being in a too big of a hurry? ... " to be any more than a question.
She is not saying, "you" to anyone. But to those commenting in this thread, unless I'm mistaken.
Many of us here challenge each other over training tactices. I think more strongly even than April. I recall conversations with Sue in Taiwan, Karen, Madeleine, where we batted such questions back and forth and asked each other why we did or didn't do something, and made suggestions that others consider various aspects, just as April did.
In fact, were I to come to this neutrally, which I'm not, but I could try, I would say her question was rhetorically a challenge. One that reads very like some of the introductory material to the AND forum. Authored by moderators.
Is not the AND philosophy of doing with the horse what is within the horse's capacity, with classical dressage as the goal? And letting him grow in strength and mental ability gradually?
If a subscriber thinks they are seeing something other than that, how would they approach that, other than with silent retreat, in a way that would be acceptable?
If April is guilty of something then I most certainly have been myself, and for me, and I suspect her, it's enthusiasm for the issue, rather than carelessly attacking.
Taking her question as the rhetorical statement of her position, rather than a straight question, still does not put her in a special category of attacking anyone. She is stating her own thoughts about how to do it in what she believes is the AND way. Or so it appears to me.
And she was not given the courtesy of being asked to explain herself after being told someone felt 'speechless,' before being admonished publicly.
Let's take our time. Sort these things out with the spirit of our discussions from the past that has so helped move this special place and these special people and their special horses forward.
If April is asked to be supportive in her comments I'm sure she will be.
I found this very difficult to compose and maintain a supportive voice. I am sorry if I offend. I feel so invested here. In you all.
More especially in the moderators and originators and continued foundation 'mothers,' of this forum.
Donald Redux