I agree with Klaus.
I approach or explain it perhaps differently.
Being for me is allowing all feelings to flow through and experiencing them and then release them again.
This is also how I learned to meditate for 6 years.
I can not believe you can hide emotions from a prey animal and certainly not a horse, as reading an other animals state... well, they simply scan even if you are hungry or not I believe.
However, being is all about letting go of the ego.
Much tantrums with horse which I had or see others have with horses is simply because the horse does not do as I wanted, to make me 'look good'.
Because of the high spiritness of my horses and their past, they taught me to let go completely of my personal agenda and ego.
When with them I am free. Free to be my self, free to 'be'.
Not to try and be one that others would find cool and admire.
You see where I am getting with this?
Now I have been asked to do demo's on huge events with my O-master.
I agreed once, I started training. Back came the ego and the agenda.
Owen got ill and we drifted apart again and got into fights...
I did not do the demo, nor shall I ever do one ever again. The relationship with O is more prescious to me then whatever all the people in the world think of me.
Second, about being a leader.
What I think of that is in the treaths Romy so kindly pointed out (I love when she does that!).
Now, I do not aspire being a leader to my horses. I do not see in any way why I should be.
I thought about it a lot. Would I as horse choose me as leader?
I would choose O.
And I did.
What I do aspire with horses is communication, friendship, love and if they are able to grant me their time to teach me about horses, their culture, their higly intellectual mind, all their soft wisdom, their phenominal communication skils and reading/scanning of others, and more over, how 'to simply be'. How they can celebrate oneself being, is something I want to learn.
The more I let them and especially O guide me, the more I become routed to myself, and this planet, this human world even.
Life becomes more and more simple and less matters to me.
I hope I am making sense, and do not spook you when I say this, but for me, being with horses becomes less and less about those high school values I once sought so much, but more and more about finding some sort of knowledge about myself, this earth and all the inhabitans.
who is waiting for the rain to pass, so she can go to her golden sensei and feel relaxingly humble